Diagnosing others

This is labelling, name-calling, criticism. When we assume we know what another person is thinking, feeling or needing. You’re a controlling person. You are a narcissist. You are incapable of understanding emotion. You just want to use my money.

These are all damaging to connection.

What are alternatives to these words?

“When you close the door I feel alone” versus “You always shut the door and make me feel alone”. The first form is better because you are owning the emotion and talking about a specific action.