Nonviolent Communication (NVC) refers to the dance of connection refers to the steps taken to move toward connection. A simple mnemonic device is ABABAB, referring to person “A” and person “B.”
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Person A speaks with honesty from the heart.
Person B reflects back their understanding of what Person A said.
Person A confirms they were heard accurately.
Person B speaks with honesty from the heart.
Person A reflects back their understanding of what Person B said.
Person B confirms they were heard accurately.
Return to the top, to #1. This process is continued until the two people feel connected and they trust that they are understood by the other. Then they can proceed to brainstorm or propose strategies and/or solutions.
This is from PubbleDancer Press and would be described as formal NVC.
As a programmer I cannot help but notice this is a recursive algorithm 
. You end up going deeper and deeper down to the emotional core of the problems.
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